Not Sure How Best to Help Your Clients When the Need Is Great? Start Small.

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Hey there Friend,

Building a private practice or running a business is hard enough on the good days. In the middle of a pandemic, it’s even harder.

So every week, I want to offer you 4 gifts: 1 image, 1 quote, 1 idea, and 1 thing you might want to try, in hopes that these will encourage and inspire you in some good way. If this is helpful, enjoy! (And please share!)

Here is your 11:11 for today.

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ONE QUOTE

If you want to change someone’s life, change their day first.
― Pat Flynn, Smart Passive Income Podcast

ONE IDEA

Women entrepreneurs have big hearts. And if you’re a healer, such as a clinical social worker, a yoga teacher, or a reiki practitioner, I know how passionate you are about bringing your unique magic to the world.

That’s a good thing. To be honest, right now, we could all use a little more healing in our lives.

But sometimes, your heart – and your vision – is so big you don’t know where to start. There are so many ways you can serve your clients, help your community and soothe troubled energy. The need for your help can be overwhelming.

But you can make a difference now, really, and it’s easier than you think.

Just think small.

ONE THING to TRY

At our coaching retreat last week, I led my students through a training on how they could create some small bit of content that would be a quick win for their audience, and help grow their business at the same time.

There were LOTS of ideas flowing. :)

Is there a problem that your clients are dealing with more than anything else right now? Increased depression for those stuck at home? Anxiety about the future for new college graduates? A mom’s worry about keeping her health intact when the gym is closed?

What small but helpful lesson, tip, guide, tool or process could you walk them through that can help them find quick relief?

Think about things you say to your clients all the time: the homework you give, the suggestions you make, over and over again.

Get out a notebook and do a little brainstorming. How could you turn some of that into a video? An audio? A pdf download they could print and follow?

How could you make someone’s day better right away?

I’d love to hear!

Be well, my friends – and get creative!

 

 

 

P.S. Need help thinking about how you can give your clients a quick win? Sign up for a Quick Start Consult here.

Look for Abundance

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Hey there Friend,

How’s your week been? Crazy? Good? Rough? No worries. I get it. We’re all getting by the best we can.

Maybe I can help.

Each week, I bring you 4 gifts: 1 image, 1 quote, 1 idea, and 1 thing you might want to try – all designed to encourage, educate or inspire. If this is helpful, share it with a friend!

Here is your 11:11 for today.

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ONE QUOTE

Abundance is not something we acquire.
It is something we tune into.
― Wayne Dyer (1940 – 2015) American author, motivational speaker

ONE IDEA

I like the idea of tuning in to abundance.

One of my dogs is a 65 pound, big, beautiful, oh-so-hairy, white collie named Ava. If you’ve followed me on Facebook for any length of time, you’ve probably seen her.

I live out in the country, but I don’t have a fence, so when she needs to go out, yours truly has to go out with her.

Sometimes, getting off the couch and into my shoes, grabbing the leash and heading out into the dark, is the last thing I want to do.

But I love her, so we go. And then – I see.

I notice the half moon rising over the mountains behind my house, and the Big Dipper right over my head. I notice the dew that has already settled on the grass. I notice donkey sounds way off in the distance. I notice fireflies in the walnut tree.

I notice beauty.

And abundance.

And my soul takes a deep, life-sustaining, breath.

ONE THING to TRY

Make it a game. See what you can find that’s right in front of you. What feels like abundance? What feels like luxury?

What feels like plenty?

Maybe it’s the roses in your front yard. Maybe it’s the smile in your lover’s eyes. Maybe it’s the payment from a grateful client. Maybe it’s your first sip of hot coffee in the morning.

Notice beauty.

Notice abundance.

Even now. Especially now.

Drink it in.

And be well,

 

 

 

P.S. I love you guys. Have an awesomely abundant weekend. :)

Are You Being Called to Lead?

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Hey there Friend,

A lot has happened this week, and we are all being called to think deeply about what matters most in the lives of our family, our businesses, and our country.

To make things a little easier each week, I want to offer you 4 gifts: 1 image, 1 quote, 1 idea, and 1 thing you might want to try, in hopes that they will help you sort through the noise to find what matters, to you.

Here is your 11:11 for today.

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Always do right. This will gratify some people and astonish the rest. ―Mark Twain (1835 – 1920) American author

ONE IDEA

What does it mean, exactly, to ‘do right’?

I don’t always know, to be honest. Sometimes, understanding the path I should take or the decisions I need to make is hard. Sometimes, what feels right for me may not feel right for others, and that’s hard too.

But every now and then, what’s “right” is super clear. It’s right that we all participate in this messy experiment called democracy. It’s right that we use our voice to make our needs, and our ideas, heard.

And it’s right that women, alongside men, vote, serve – and lead.

This week, we marked the 100th anniversary of the ratification of the 19th amendment, a monumental change to the U.S. Constitution that gave women the right to vote.

I was in my 30s before I heard the story about the critical role my own state, Tennessee, played on August 18, 1920 when we finally won that fight, and did what was right.

This week, as I drove in a parade to mark that date, I couldn’t help but love and appreciate that literally as we celebrate the 100th anniversary of that important milestone, we have only the 2nd woman ever – and the first woman of color – on the national ballot of a major political party.

No matter our politics, no matter how we may vote, that simple fact in itself is worth celebrating, don’t you think? I sure think so.

Where are you being called to serve, and to lead?

ONE THING to TRY

I speak to women entrepreneurs about big dreams, high hopes, and high aspirations. Far too many of them struggle to see the amazing value they bring to their work. Far too many hesitate to own their authority, stand up straight, and show their beautiful, true, powerful, full-bodied Self to the world.

And that hurts us all.

It limits their income, their impact, and their well being. And we miss out on the benefit of what they have to share.

Take a look at each area of your life right now: relationships, home, business, community. Where are the opportunities for you to step forward and say what you mean to say, do what you want to do, and be who you want to be?

Take it a step further. Where can you encourage and support another woman on her own path to leadership? Because when one of us wins we all win.

I’d love to hear.

Be well,

And be well,

 

 

 

P.S. How are you already a leader in your own life? Hit reply and tell me. :))

How Do Your Clients Feel About Their Work with You?

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Hey there Friend,

We talk about a lot here: business, life, relationships, fear. You name it. And we do that each week in the form of 1 image, 1 quote, 1 idea, and 1 thing you might want to try.

My hope is that these little notes will provide a little insight, and a lot of support for you in whatever way you need it. Let me know what you think.

Here is your 11:11 for today.

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ONE QUOTE

People don’t buy because what you do is awesome.
People buy because it makes them feel awesome.
―Tara McMullin, Host of the “What Works” Podcast

ONE IDEA

Recently, I was contacted by someone who wanted to learn more about the private coaching I do with women entrepreneurs. We met when I spoke on a panel a few months ago, and I knew she had a business idea she wanted to try.

When we got on the call, she mentioned that she’d been working with a coach for the past three months, but that it wasn’t going well. “I actually feel worse every time I get off a call with her,” she explained.

Uh oh. That didn’t sound right.

Was it possible that she just wasn’t doing well, and the coach was trying to push her a little bit? If so, perhaps it was just a bit of miscommunication.

I asked her to tell me more about what she’d been learning, and what steps she’d taken to get her business off the ground.

Turns out, she’d done a lot. In fact, seemed to me she’d taken some pretty brave steps, like posting Facebook Lives (which takes a ton of courage) and mapping out a premium offer.

I felt like she had a lot to be proud of – but apparently, that wasn’t the message she was receiving, or the feeling she was having. Whether that was about the coach’s style – or not – I had no way of knowing, but it really didn’t matter.

How she felt is what mattered.

When a potential client reaches out to you, they don’t really want to know about the tools you use, the certification you have or the letters after your name.

They want to know if you can help them feel better.

(And if they are honest, most of them don’t think anyone can, really.)

Can you help them fix what feels broken or get past their fear? Learn how to talk to their spouse – or their teen? Get clear on their career? Start their business? Take actual steps forward on a life long dream?

I don’t always have the answers my clients need. But they know I love them (they tell me so), they know that I’m going to challenge them, and they know I believe in them.

If I do my job right, they’ll eventually start to believe in themselves.

And that feels good, for both of us. :)

ONE THING to TRY

If you’re a healer, it may be true that sometimes people have to feel worse before they feel better (and no one wants to hear that.)

But it is also true that if you are working with clients you are meant to serve, something should get better. There should be a point on the other side of the muck where things start looking up.

Look at your current case load. Do a little tally in your head. What would most of your clients say they feel, because they work with you?

Even if things are still hard or progress is at a crawl, do they feel cared for? Guided in the right direction?

Heard?

If so, what is it that’s working?
And if not, what needs to change?

Let me know what you figure out.

And be well,

 

 

 

P.S. Some of our clients make more progress than others, and the reasons behind that are complex. So – if they’re not where you want them to be – I don’t want you to use this exercise as an excuse to beat yourself up. Far from it. I just want you to ask the question, ‘how do my clients feel when they work with me?” and learn good things from that.

Love more. Judge less.

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Hey there Friend,

Here are your 4 gifts for the week: 1 image, 1 quote, 1 idea, and 1 thing you might want to try.

We are living in a time of extreme change and high emotions, I know. My hope is that these notes help you see things a little differently, and feel a little better, whether in your business, or your life.

Here is your 11:11 for today.

ONE IMAGE

ONE QUOTE

The word ‘listen’ contains the same letters as the word ‘silent’.
― Alfred Brendel (b. 1931) Austrian pianist, poet, lecturer

ONE IDEA

There is a lot of noise out there, and I am astounded at the viciousness that I see and hear in the world. If I make the mistake of reading the comments on certain Facebook posts or, heaven forbid, a mainstream news article, I don’t get far before I have to close it out.

When did it become okay to villainize each other in this way?

It’s easy to judge someone without a name, a face, or a shared history. Just as we can so quickly judge the anonymous driver who just pulled out in front of us, we can just as quickly judge the anonymous (to us) reporter who published an article, or the anonymous (to us) man or woman who shared angry thoughts on line.

But that driver may be distracted with grief. That reporter may have triple checked her facts the best she could and still missed something. The author of that comment may be an abuse survivor who’s never felt loved in his life.

The truth is we all have a story. There is a reason why people think, feel and do what they do.

We need to be careful with the stories we tell ourselves about each other.

If someone says something that you don’t like, they’re not stupid. They’re just coming from a different place than you. And sometime they’re coming from a very wounded place.

The more we can at least try to understand that about each other, the better things will be for all of us.

ONE THING to TRY

Whether you are one to jump into the fray or one to sit back and silently shake your head, try to be aware of your own words and thoughts this week.

If you find yourself feeling triggered, take a step back. Notice your own breath. Notice the energy of your own thoughts. If you can, try to imagine what kind of life experiences could lead to what you’re observing. Then let it go, and move on.

If you’re so inclined, and the circumstances allow it, invite that person into dialogue with you. If you do, don’t do that with the energy of convincing. Do that only with the energy of learning.

We need to listen more. Shout less.
Breathe more. Worry less.
Love more. Judge less.

At least as much as we are able….

Be well,

 

 

P.S. Don’t let the energy of others rob you of your own peace.